Sticks and Stones

Well, it looks like I've finally arrived as a blogger. I have my first "hater."

I'm really trying to have a sense of humor about this, but the fact is, I am so shocked and honestly, really hurt.

As I was obsessively checking my stats and comments- which I do frequently, I noticed one of my high traffic sources was from a website called "Get Off My Internets." Curious, I clicked the link.

Much to my horror, I found that someone in cyberspace had written a comment about my blog under the "'Nobody' Blogs that Annoy You" category. I really shouldn't have read it seeing as it already sucked to be labeled a "nobody" as well as "annoying." But I did. Here's what my hater had to say:

I literally felt sick to my stomach reading this. You know, sticks and stones and all that stuff.

But I'm posting because I'm hoping to address some of these apparent contradictions. I'm a work in progress, for sure, but it sucks to be called out like this rather than approached directly.

So to "myname," here's what I've got to say for myself:

1. I do not consider myself a religious person. But I do believe in the example of Jesus and I do want to model Him in my life. You're right- acting like a drunken ass is not glorifying Him in any sense. Which is why I have committed to giving up drinking which I talked about here. 

This is a much more accurate depiction of my life:
no makeup and jammies with my lazy butt on the couch.

If it looks like I'm posting a lot of pictures of drunken escapades it's simply because I'm not as prone to take pictures during my evenings when I'm home by myself. Watching back-to-back reruns of L.A. Ink doesn't exactly make for riveting blog material. My husband and I generally have a "party hardy" night with our friends about once a month. During these times, you can bet your bottom dollar I'm going to document my wee little social life. So I'm sorry if I led you to the impression that I'm some kind of party girl. I'm not. I'm also not a perfect disciple of Jesus Christ. But I'm working on it.

2. A few years ago I probably would have been as equally nauseated by someone publishing a "16 Months as Mrs." post. I had been abused by a man who was supposed to be a father figure and had come to the conclusion that I was entirely unworthy of love. Every guy I met seemed to reinforce that idea and I had completely accepted the fact that I would never marry, let alone love a man. So imagine my surprise when I fell madly in love with a genuinely kind, gentle and good man. Yes, my bi-monthly marriage updates may seem a little obnoxious. But I'm not apologetic. I found the love of my life and am the happiest I have ever been. Even better, I finally feel like I deserve to be happy. Since my blog is a reflection of my life, I am sure as hell going to document my wonderful marriage.

3. I honestly didn't realize I talked about how "poor" I am so frequently. It hasn't been my aim to whine about my financial state. Rather, I recognize that a lot of people my age are going through the similar burden of graduating college with inordinate amounts of student loan debt. Money is a taboo topic of conversation and isn't talked about as much as I think it should be. It is my hope that by sharing our journey in paying off our debt and in general, figuring out how to responsibly handle our money that maybe, just maybe I might be able to be of some encouragement to someone in similar standing.

I realize I shouldn't give your hurtful comments more attention than they deserve, but because I felt I deserved an opportunity to defend myself against your anonymous words and because there is a small part of me that worries that your views might be shared by more than just yourself- here you go. I'm sad that you no longer enjoy reading my blog. But this is me, take it or leave it.